It’s been a little over two months since my wife passed away. It has been quite an adjustment living alone with my dog. Although Jean was stricken with dementia and Alzheimer’s in late 2013, there was a slow yet very methodical decline in her demeanor. She had a very bubbly personality that would light up a room. In October 2018, Jean and I moved back to Pennsylvania from Delaware, where we resided for two years. From the very first day, I felt very comfortable with the Clarks Summit Nurses, Aides, Social Workers, and everyone else on the team. Without AseraCare’s help and guidance through this time, it would have been hard to cope. I didn’t get any other help from the state with Jean’s care. This was my first experience in dealing with caring for a loved one without any support.
“Without AseraCare’s help and guidance through this time, it would have been hard to cope.”
My brothers, kids, cousins, and friends were all after me to put Jean in a home. My reply to all of them was that she was already in a home, our home. AseraCare was very supportive of my decision and offered advice and counseling along the way. They were very gentle with how they communicated with me. I only had one thing in my mind, and that was taking care of my wife. Everyone at AseraCare knew that and supported me 100%. They helped me accept Jean’s decline and understand how to help. I purchased a wheelchair and a van so I could take her each week to get her hair done, as she did our whole married life. Lucky for me, they encouraged me to do it and made sure an aide or nurse was here to help me get her ready to go.
“AseraCare was very supportive of my decision and offered advice and counseling along the way.”
I was truly amazed to see how kindness was so prevalent with her care team. They bent over backward to teach me what I needed to know to give my wife the best care possible. I called many times, even in the middle of the night, to get advice as her progression worsened. They were so easy to talk to; they never failed to impress me daily. They gently nudged me into the next phase of care, as I was like a bull in a china shop! They never got frustrated with me and helped me see that they were right there with me. When the end came, all the nurses were so kind to me. Team members came around the clock and guided me to give her the best care possible until she was ready to leave this earth. When she took her last breath, I held her hand, and AseraCare was with me right up until the very end.
It was a long road, almost seven years, from beginning to end. Although it was the end of my wife’s life, it is not the end of my relationship with AseraCare. They still check on me and see how I’m doing. Thank you, AseraCare care for helping me through the toughest period of my life. Without you, I would’ve never made it.
-John Stange, husband of Jean